The holidays are upon us, the prime season for disappointment from unmet expectations.

Didn’t get the gift you hoped for?

Didn’t get the reaction you imagined for a gift you gave?

This second one is sometimes the hardest for me. I have learned that what I want to give is separate from what another wants to receive. To be truly generous, I have to want what makes them happy rather than what I want them to be happy with. (Of course, if it is within my ability to give.)

This year, give yourself the gift of clear communication for those on your list. What would they like? Ask for more details. Let them know if that isn’t possible.

Tell them what you would like. Be specific.

Take the ego out of giving and receiving. Be brave enough to ask what you wish for and ask others to share the same with you.

Maybe you can’t avoid all disappointments, but you can limit the possibility if you communicate.

 Happiest of holidays ahead,

Mary