Sometimes, things happen in our lives that are beyond our control. The loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, breakups, injury. All sorts of things. The adjustment period can be very long and difficult depending on the level of trauma and our willingness to work within the new limitations.

Sometimes we even find a gift in this new way of being. But that is often a long way off.

Then there are some things that make accepting and adjusting nearly impossible. For my 89-year-old mother, there is great sadness at having to leave her cherished home. The thought of making a new start elsewhere is more than daunting.

I believe mom can and will do it. It will just take a while.

This is where expectations come in. What is reasonable to expect of oneself or others depends on the situation. Regardless, patience and kindness are always a good plan.

Be kind to yourself.

Be kind to others trying to assist.

Be kind.

Are you being kind to yourself? Are your thoughts as positive and supportive as you would offer up to a good friend? If you would like to know more about how you can be your own best advocate while experiencing new realities and managing expectations, let’s talk.