On New Year’s Day, my friend said she never makes resolutions. They are just another opportunity to disappoint herself. Brava!

I don’t make them either.

I suggested that she try affirmations instead and here’s the difference.

Resolutions tend to be written in the future tense designed to last an entire year:

     “I will lose ten pounds.”

     “I will be more organized.”

     “I will find the perfect mate.”

Affirmations are written in the present tense and give you a positive action in the moment:

     “I am healthy and take care of my body every day.”

     “I put things away when I finish with them.”

     “I treat myself with respect.”

     “I attract people who respect me and like me for who I am.”

If you’ve made resolutions this year, take a look and ask yourself if they are

     -written in the here and now

     -inform your life in positive ways

     -give you a sense of control in the present moment

If the answer is no, try rewriting them in ways that you find motivating, give you room to be human, and keep you moving in a positive direction.

If you would like some help getting started, I am happy to help.

Mary