No one can lead every moment. Nor should they.

We each need our turn to steer the ship, to forge new paths, to follow different dreams. And when we have done such tiring work, exhilarating as it is, it is good to be carried for a while.

Our culture is adamant that we be independent to the detriment of our well-being. We cannot be that independent all the time.

I recently had two individual clients for whom being strong was an imperative, yet they were so tired. One was even judgmental about others who rested on occasion. It gave one a sense of superiority, while the other felt unworthy.  

I want to share this invitation with you: lead when you must, and allow yourself to be assisted when called for. Or, dare I say, to simply let go for a while. It might be in a relationship, at work, or any situation in which more than just you are involved. If you let go of the reins, the world will not end. It may not progress as quickly or perfectly as you would like, but it will continue to evolve, and life will go on.

For those of us who have gone through our sixties and beyond, especially women, we expect our doctors, our children, and our therapists to tell us we need to be stronger. It is always a surprise (and not always a pleasant one) to hear that, really, it is okay to let go.

My wish for you is to find the moments, days, or even weeks when it is okay to let go. To not be strong. To be carried.

Mary