Let’s talk about the soul’s experience after leaving the physical body. We, the ones they have left behind, often feel an intense and immediate need to reconnect.

Moving to a 55+ community, I have had a lot of clients who are newly widowed or some who have recently lost a child. They need to know so much. They ask, “Did she know?” “Was it an accident?” “Is he sorry?” “Do they realize?” “Are they with mom/dad/Jimmy/the family dog?” “Are they sorry?” 

Here is what they have taught me about reconnecting. So far.

It matters if the passing was recent, sudden, prolonged, young, old, self-inflicted, or the result of something health-related, accidental, or natural aging.

When death is expected, such as in old age or after a prolonged illness, a soul has usually had time to negotiate their passing, begin their life review, and gradually assimilate. When death is sudden, such as from an accident, the soul may still be wondering what’s happened. Either way, we do not become “all knowing” upon our passing.

All is not revealed by departing the body. It takes time to adjust. And, of course, time has no reference on the other side and therefore adheres to no schedule.

As a medium, I know that my aunt, who passed in 1987, was still waiting to cross over thirty years later. She said she was waiting for my mother. Eventually, I stopped seeing her. I don’t know if she just stopped showing up or decided to finally cross. Either way, she waited for what we would think was a very long time.

Many hospice workers have told me that our hearing is the last to go. I believe that hearing never goes. The sound of one’s name from a familiar voice can be recognized for an eternity.

I’ve also learned that some souls come through more readily than others. If you have recently lost a loved one, be patient. Wait at least six months to give them and you time to adjust.

Whatever you decide, I’m here when you’re ready.

Mary