Spirit’s messages to my clients are often about setting boundaries. Boundaries are what we draw for ourselves around how much we are willing to give or take from another. Boundaries are healthy, necessary, and too often only loosely in place.

We have excuses for why we allow boundaries to be crossed. Our adult child who drains us of all our resources. Our spouse or partner with whom we are committed beyond all reason. These are boundaries we need to draw. And it is very possible to love someone while drawing boundaries around what you will and will not tolerate.

Limits, on the other hand, are what we draw for ourselves when we place a cap on our dreams. When we talk ourselves out of dreaming about what is possible. Limits are the bricks we place on our heads, stifling our potential to do great things. Bigger things. Things that take us out of our comfort zone and into the great unknown of limitless potential.

Boundaries are for our own personal well-being. Limits define how far we will allow ourselves to soar.

I appreciate that these words can be used interchangeably, but I challenge you to think about making a distinction. Boundaries are a real necessity. Limits? They can be… limiting.

If something feels unattainable, ask yourself if it is (a) because it requires another to change, or (b) because you simply haven’t found the path forward yet? If it is the former, boundaries are required. Never spend your time trying to change another. If it is the latter, try taking the metaphoric brick off your head and open up to new possibilities.

Feeling like you need stronger boundaries or are somehow limited? Schedule a time with me, and we will ask Spirit for guidance.

Mary